Porn performers have unique insights into how to make pleasure a bigger part of life.

Enjoy this roleplay game where you can pretend to be a porn performer and try out different bdsm scenarios. 

Why Is Degradation Such a Popular Kink?

Degradation: Why is it Popular?

Do porn performers have better sex lives than the rest of us? Maybe, maybe not. What they do have is a unique perspective on pleasure and sex. Erotic performers also have a very nuanced understanding of how pleasure and sex can fit into (and benefit) other aspects of life.

A large part of sexual fulfillment is the ability to explore and express things that sexually satisfy you, either by yourself or with a partner. Additionally, another part of sexual fulfillment is incorporating pleasure into your lifestyle in a healthy and balanced way. These are two things that sex workers, porn performers, and 

creators may excel for one simple reason: their careers.

Let’s get into how amateur porn performers (in any capacity) can have some unique insights that may not be so common in other professions. Plus, you can join in on the fun by trying the challenges below throughout the month of December. Think of it like an advent calendar — one that’s a bit more spicy than sweet!

Sex work is about selling a fantasy. So much of the time, a person’s ability to do this is based on a fundamental knowledge of how to roleplay in a way that feels authentic. Roleplaying isn’t just about a persona or a character, it’s about diving deeper into an alternate mindset. Whether it’s for a single photoshoot or an extended 

, amateur porn performers are great at diving head-first into different roles.

While this can be hard work, it can also lead to a deeper understanding of how you feel about the characters you're portraying, which can lead to some interesting realizations about yourself as a sexual person. Plus, it’s super fun to dress up and pretend to be someone else, right?

 Roleplay as someone daring, mischievous, and playful sometime in the next few weeks. Buy some lingerie that’s a little out of your comfort zone and see what it provokes. Go along with a new fantasy idea in the bedroom. See how you feel once you step into (and out of) that persona. Are there any things you’d like to incorporate from the roleplay into your sex life?

Confidence is sexy, there is no denying this. Being an actor or performer in any capacity requires a certain level of confidence.

Achieving and maintaining confidence amidst the stresses of daily life can be difficult - but it is absolutely worth it to work on your 

confidence inside and outside the bedroom

Confidence invites security, security promotes daring. If you feel safe, you are more likely to be bold in the bedroom.

Take a pole dancing or strip-tease class, watch a Youtube tutorial, put on some music, and learn a sexy dance. Channel your inner erotic dancer and find your groove. Do this alone at first, and then once you feel confident enough, perform the dance in front of a partner - they will love it.

"Whether you’re discovering non-monogamy or simply learning a new sex position, exploration is essential."

One of the most interesting things about being a porn performer is the need to mix things up for both yourself and your audience.

One of the ways performers do this is by switching up locations and testing out new places to do the deed. The bed, the floor, the couch, in your backyard, in the kitchen…there are so many places to get frisky. And yet, most of us limit ourselves to the couch or bedroom. Why is this? Routine. We fall into a routine and often don’t really realize how beneficial it would be for us to mix things up a bit.

 and in one new position this week. See how it feels - does it make you feel excited? Or are you too nervous to enjoy it? Is it something you want to do more? Test it out, and see what you think!

Anyone in the sex work or porn performer space will likely have an open mind. This profession and the sex-positive world around it is a place where people’s curiosities can grow and be nurtured. One of the best ways to expand your own sex life is to be open to new experiences and most importantly, be open to new learnings.

 or simply learning a new sex position, exploration is essential. And the key to healthy, positive exploration is having an open mind.

Research a new kink or sex position that you have heard of and are interested in. Ask yourself how this would fit into your current sex life. Ask yourself if you’re interested in testing it out. If so - go for it!

A Genuine Desire to Know (And Love) Their Own Body

Confidence is sexy, as we already declared above. However, something more intense and more satisfying than confidence is a genuine desire to love your own body. Gentle compassion for self-love. Understanding your body has blemishes and scars and marks - and deciding to love it anyways.