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Learn how to give oral sex to women and people with vulvas with these tips, techniques, and best oral sex positions to maximize pleasure and intimacy.

How to Give Oral Sex to Women and People With Vulvas: A Guide

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If you want to explore oral sex women and people with vulvas will love, this guide draws from both personal and professional experience and is packed with tips, techniques, and the best oral sex positions. Whether you’re new to giving oral sex to vulvas or you’re a seasoned pro, there’s always more to learn about creating intimate, pleasure-filled experiences that center on connection, communication, and mutual enjoyment.

As a queer person and porn performer, I’ve learned that great oral isn’t just about skill—it’s about presence, curiosity, and a genuine desire to explore what brings your partner the most joy. Let’s dive into how to give oral sex that feels incredible—not just for your partner, but for you, too.

Oral sex is so much more than just technique—it’s about connection. For people with vulvas, it’s an opportunity to focus entirely on the body’s most sensitive areas. The clitoris alone has over 8,000 nerve endings, making it the ultimate pleasure center. Oral sex also allows you to explore other erogenous zones that might get overlooked in other forms of intimacy.

But what makes oral truly magical isn’t just knowing where the clitoris is or how to move your tongue (though that’s important too). It’s about being fully present in the moment—reading cues, adapting, and making it a mutual experience. That’s the secret sauce: attentiveness and adaptability. (For real-world inspiration, check out 

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Setting the Stage for Oral Sex Women Will Love: Vibes Before Moves

Oral isn’t just about technique (though we’ll get there, don’t worry). It’s also about taking some time to set a mood that feels relaxed, fun, and a little electrifying. You can’t just dive in (okay, sometimes you can, but it works better with buildup): 

Gliding your hands or mouth over their underwear creates a tantalizing barrier that makes the eventual reveal all the more exciting.

 Circle their nipples lightly with your tongue or hands. Gentle sucking or flicking with your tongue can also be wildly arousing.

 Kiss and caress their thighs, lingering tantalizingly close without diving straight in. Teasing builds anticipation.

The first mistake people often make with oral sex is rushing. Great oral is like a slow-burn romance—it needs buildup. Start slow and steady—before your mouth even touches their vulva, spend time teasing and exploring other erogenous areas:

 Gliding your hands or mouth over their underwear creates a tantalizing barrier that makes the eventual reveal all the more exciting.

Circle their nipples lightly with your tongue or hands. Gentle sucking or flicking with your tongue can also be wildly arousing.

No two vulvas are alike, and discovering what makes your partner tick is part of the fun. Here’s a quick roadmap of where to focus your attention, but remember–what works for one person may not work for another:

Often the star of the show, this ultra-sensitive organ responds best to gentle, intentional touch. Avoid going too hard or fast; start slow and adjust based on their reactions.

These sensitive folds are packed with nerve endings. Gentle licking, kissing, or light sucking can feel divine.

 This small area between the vaginal opening and anus is often overlooked but can provide subtle, exciting sensations. It responds well to light licking or kissing.

Combining oral with fingers or toys here can create a multidimensional experience. 

For more detailed depictions of how to explore these areas, 

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Once you’ve set the mood and explored the terrain, it’s time to get hands-on (and mouth-on). Here are some of my favorite techniques but remember–always lick with intention: 

Use your tongue to make long, even strokes from the bottom to the top of the vulva. Start light and increase the intensity as your partner warms up.

Use the tip of your tongue to trace soft circles around the clitoris, switching directions occasionally to keep things interesting.

Lightly suck on the clitoris or labia while breathing and moaning gently. This adds subtle vibrations that many find mind-blowing.

fingers inside the vagina. Use a “come-hither” motion to stimulate the G-spot while syncing with your oral rhythm.

Best Oral Sex Positions for Women and People With Vulvas

Changing positions isn’t just fun—it can unlock entirely new sensations. Here are a few to try: 

Have your partner lie on their back with a pillow under their hips. This position is great for easy access and maximum comfort.

 Invite your partner to sit on your face while you lie down. This position gives them control over the pressure and angle.

Have them prop one foot on the tub’s edge or a bench while you kneel in front. This angle can feel adventurous and deeply intimate.

 Bend them over a table or kitchen counter and kneel behind them for an exciting twist on oral.

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 for more hands-on inspiration for your own adventures.

As a queer person, I know firsthand how language matters. Not all women have vulvas, and not all people with vulvas identify as women. When it comes to oral sex, it’s essential to approach the experience as a celebration of the unique individual in front of you, honoring their identity and preferences. 

Before getting intimate, consider taking the time to ask your partner how they relate to their body and what language they prefer for different parts and activities. As 

Communication needs to go beyond just consent

”. You might say something like, “I like calling my genitals called my ‘girl dick’ and using the term ‘going down on’ for oral sex. What words feel good for you?”

These conversations might feel awkward at first, but they’re essential for building trust and ensuring that everyone feels respected, seen, and celebrated during intimacy. 

One lesson I’ve taken from porn sets is that communication is everything. Checking in during oral sex doesn’t just ensure you’re hitting the right spots—it can also be sexy as hell:

 Simple questions like, “Does this pressure feel good?” or “Do you want more of this?” are hot and can keep you on track while showing that you care.

Pay attention to their breathing, movements, and moans. These non-verbal cues can guide you to what feels amazing.

 Oral sex isn’t one-size-fits-all. Adjust your rhythm, pressure, and technique based on their reactions. Don’t be afraid to ask if you’re unsure.

Want to go from good to unforgettable? Here’s how to take your oral game to the next level:

Start slow and teasing, then ramp it up with more intense strokes when the tension’s high.

If you’re into edging like me, alternate between firm, rhythmic movements and then ease off slightly with soft, feathery touches to keep them guessing—and craving more.

Oral sex is about more than physical skill—it’s an exchange of energy. When you’re focused and lose yourself in the moment, your partner will feel the difference.

 A small vibrator alongside your tongue adds a new level of sensation and can drive your partner over the edge.

The scene doesn’t end after the climax. Aftercare matters:

Share what you both enjoyed and bask in the afterglow.

Ask what felt best or if there’s anything they’d like to try next time.

Acknowledge the connection you shared and express gratitude for the experience.

In my experience on and off the camera, I’ve come to see oral sex as something that’s deeply personal and endlessly customizable. It’s not about mastering a specific set of moves or replicating something you’ve seen on-screen or tried with a previous partner. Instead, it’s about curiosity, exploration, and creativity to create a shared experience with someone.

This guide is just a starting point. When you approach it with an open mind and a willingness to listen, oral sex can be one of the most rewarding and intimate forms of sexual connection.

Jasko & Kali

Based in Berlin and Barcelona respectively, queer cuties Jasko and Kali may not see each other daily but when they do, sex, play and exploration are priorities. After meeting six years ago at a sex toy store, the pair bonded over their many shared “nerdy” interests. As lovers, they discovered a handful of common kinks too. “We share some sexy fetishes,” they say, “one of them being latex. We both love how it feels and looks on our skin. We also love wrestling and playing with our weight on top of each other.” Talk about a cute crush!

Age	36 & 39
Type	regular-lovers
Location	Berlin, Germany
Sex life	Insatiable

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