With May being #masturbationmonth, it’s time to speak up about the epic benefits of mutual masturbation!

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With May being #masturbationmonth, and the overall type of content we share on this wonderful website, it’s time to speak up about the epic benefits of mutual masturbation.

The definition of this act can be confusing, as it can both be referring to you and your partner, each masturbating themselves, either in the same room or with the wonders of technology (phone, video chat) which the other being able to watch and listen. It can also refer to an act of hand sex you perform on each other. I’ll be talking mainly about the first one.

Mutual masturbation can be incredibly beneficial to any sexual partnership. It’s an extremely educational tool you can use to learn about how each is used to pleasing themselves. It can help someone who isn’t experienced or finds it hard to orgasm, get comfortable before or after penetrative sex.

It can be a safe tool to help overcome sexual trauma, which unfortunately isn’t as rare as it should be in the modern age, or when someone is unable to do it due to an injury. It can help make a long distance relationship closer, and of course it can be a fun way to get off, when you’re just not in the mood for the full act itself.

For most people who are in long term relationships who aren’t long distance, it’s often hard to imagine why mutual masturbation will be useful. You may ask yourself: ‘Why masturbate with my partner when I can have the 'real thing'?

Let me rephrase the question: 'Why do hat thing I’ve been doing alone since I was young, perfected over the years with flawless technique to be the exact speed, duration, pressure and type of stroked that I like and can bring me to orgasm every single time - when I can let someone who doesn't feel what I feel touch my very sensitive genitals however they want blindly or based on their ex's and past lovers and hope they're doing a good job.' See what I mean?

If you or your partner aren't very experienced sexually, using mutual masturbation, despite the rather off putting name, is very helpful to make the transition into penetrative sex easier and more comfortable. It's hard for most people to talk and give verbal instructions and directions during sex, or get a detailed reply when asking how they're doing.

The majority of men are able to reach an orgasm in almost all sexual encounters. A recent study in the US showed that over 80%of men will cum every time, with only 47% of women reported being able to reach an orgasm. Therefore, being able to masturbate, showing to your partner, either by video or in the same room, how exactly you bring yourself to pleasure is an invaluable tool.

Yes, there are similarities with some people and generally, if you've been with more than one person and felt comfortable to experiment, you might eventually find what your partner likes, but having a session of showing each other how you do it, will teach you immediately everything you need to know and will also translate to hand sex, oral sex and penetrative sex.

In the early stages of a relationship, when you're infatuated, everything is new and even their farts are cute and sexy - you and your partner might be able easily cum from any type of pressure and touch because the exciting new experience amplifies the sensations even if the pressure is not exactly right, or the speed, or whatever. Showing your partner, even after some time together how exactly you do it, will be beneficial and extremely hot.

It's also the perfect practice for when you're (or just one of your) is tired but horny, and wants to go to sleep, but the sexual tension is too much. If you or your partner don’t have the energy, have an injury that is preventing you from bouncing up and down, sideways, changing positions, and just want that sweet sweet relief before falling into sweet post orgasmic sleep, touching yourselves, or just letting them watch can be all you need for a hot experience that will send you into dreamland.

Which brings me to another great aspect of this practice. Even if your partner isn't actually participating, people often find it extremely erotic to watch others in their most pleasurable moments. Or be watched, of course. Hence, just the act of being naked, touching yourself and seeing how another person is bringing themselves to an orgasm will be a powerful, sexy experience, that will make the relief so much better.

Which why next time only one of you is up for it, you can just say you'll finish yourself off, and they're welcome to watch, listen, take part if they're up for it or just lay a stroking hand on any part of you body. Invite them into otherwise lonesome experience for a better and more connected act. Mutual masturbation is also an important part of both a long distance relationship, and a useful tool when you're apart due to other reasons like work, school and life in general.

Technology made it extremely easy. However, I find that most people will either use 'aspirational sexting' or exchange sexy photos and clips, instead of just the mutual act of touching themselves in sync, which for the above mentioned reasons, I urge you to try. Sending a greatly lit image of you putting on a sexy pose isn't the same as the vulnerable act of bringing yourself to pleasure while your eager partner, wishing they were there with you, watches and gets turned on by you. It is a unique act, because you let someone else to be connected with you, however still focus on yourself and do the exact thing that gets you off as you are use to doing it.