If you're just looking for a hookup or someone to have a family and cat babies with, here are some tips that might help your online dating experience.

Make online dating your bitch!

We find our jobs, our clothes, some of our friends, our gaming partners and pretty much anything we need online, so why is anyone surprised we’re finding partners online too?                        

When I used online dating it was as successful as I wanted it to be. Meaning, it gave back as much as I put into it. If I cared about what came out of it, I was dating quality people I had a wonderful time with and if not, I found myself with some impressively disgusting human trash. After also reading several studies about the topic and watching more than a few talks from clinical psychologists and even online dating coaches, here are some tips: 

1. Rejection happens and you should be prepared for it. The reason a lot of people find online dating hard is that they sometimes project onto someone they found a lot of their wishes and desires and end up getting rejected by people they believed would be perfect for them, before they even had a real interaction. Remember that you didn’t even know some of these people existed and that a well crafted online profile with some cute photos doesn’t mean anything. Also, if someone isn’t after the same thing you’re after, there’s no point in wasting time trying to convince them otherwise. Just move on, Save your energy. 

2. Don’t fall for the “who liked you” trap. A lot of online sites ask you to pay for featured like seeing who liked you and seeing who’s interested in you, but this only plays to their favour since they’re interested in keeping you single. When trying to find people online, focus on who YOU like, and don’t start settling just because this person who don’t really think is for you decided they like you. 

3. You need to share something real to find something real. Most people nowadays play the online dating game like it’s a video game, hours of fruitless banter without it leading to anything concrete. In reality it’s simply a tool to create connections. Those connections can be anything you choose they be. If you steal a conversation into a deep place, your connected will be deep. If you keep it light and sexy you can find your casual sex partner and if you’re looking for a real romance, you will need to put in the work to actually find the person who’s looking for the same in the crowds of people simply looking for positive reassurance they're hot. 

So, how do you win at online dating?                                                         



It is also been shown that if you ask a lot of questions about the other person, make them feel important and don’t share much about yourself unless asked - you will be perceived as much more charismatic, much more attentive and much more attractive. 