Curious about lactation kinks? From milkplay to adult nursing relationships, Alice Lovegood spills the milk. 

Curious about erotic lactation? From milk kinks to adult nursing play, Alice Lovegood gets wet and wise about what turns people on when it comes to erotic milk flow. Expert-backed, kink-positive, and anything but vanilla.

Getting Into Erotic Lactation With Alice Lovegood

Got Milk? Let's Talk About Erotic Lactation With Alice Lovegood 

Erotic Lactation: Exploring the Kink, the Connection, and the Curiosity

In the world of kink, there are few topics more misunderstood—or more deeply personal—than erotic lactation. Often lumped in with fetish taboos or dismissed with a nervous laugh, this particular kink is actually rich in intimacy, sensuality, and emotional complexity. So what is erotic lactation? And how do real-life couples explore it?

In a candid interview with POV by Lustery, real-life partners 

 and Mister Lovegood unpack their experience with erotic lactation—from postpartum rediscovery to dominant/submissive dynamics and everything in between. Let’s dive in (all milk puns welcome). 

First, let’s clear up a common misconception: there’s a difference between a kink and a fetish. And erotic lactation can be a fetish as well as a 

A fetish is typically a non-negotiable need for sexual arousal.

A kink, on the other hand, is more flexible—it adds flavor, but isn’t necessary for sexual fulfillment.

“I have a lactation kink. That means I can take or leave it—it’s not something that I need.” — Alice Lovegood

Erotic Lactation Is Not the Same as Adult Nursing Relationships

Many people assume erotic lactation always involves 

, but that’s only one expression of it. ANRs focus on ongoing milk-sharing and caregiving roles. Erotic lactation is broader—it can be about:

Roleplay scenarios (e.g., breeding, domination, submission)

Celebrating motherhood and body transformation

Using milk as a symbol of power, creation, and surrender

How Erotic Lactation Became Part of The Lovegood’s Sex Life

For Alice Lovegood and Mister Lovegood, it started organically—literally.

A mother of three, it wasn’t until Alice Lovegood’s last baby that she noticed her milk dripping down during an orgasm one night. Fun fact: the same hormones (like oxytocin) are released in both milk production and climax.

“What would have been previously kind of embarrassing became this really hot, empowering thing.” — Alice Lovegood

This realization shifted Alice Lovegood’s perception of her body from just a caregiving vessel to a sexual one again. Through lactation play, she reconnected with her post-baby body—not just with acceptance, but with arousal and reverence.

Mister Lovegood admits he was initially hesitant when it came to exploring erotic lactation:

“I felt shame, I thought it was submissive...I didn’t realize I was a switch.” — Mister Lovegood

As they explored, his perspective shifted. He found erotic lactation could actually be dominant—part of their free-use play, a tool for control and erotic ownership. In fact, switching dynamics only deepened their play and mutual trust.

Erotic lactation isn’t one-size-fits-all. The beauty lies in how versatile it is.

Milk can symbolize ownership, control, and surrender. Example: “draining” a partner or being “fed and bred.”

Breasts as life-giving and divine. Milk becomes an offering, a celebration.

The kink often overlaps with breeding fantasies. Milk amplifies the “fertility” narrative.

 The wetness, the warmth, the unexpectedness.

Can You Induce Lactation Without Breastfeeding?

Short answer: yes—but it’s a process. We recommend consulting a medical professional before trying this out. Although it’s physically possible to induce lactation, plenty of adoptive parents and

 LGBTQIA+ community members learn how to do so

, it can be a physically and mentally exhausting feat. 

Regular nipple stimulation (every 2–3 hours)

Hormone therapy (under medical supervision)

“I hadn’t breastfed for three years, but because of consistent play, it stuck around.” — Alice Lovegood

If it’s more about the fantasy than the milk itself, you can always roleplay the scenario—no actual lactation required.

How to Introduce Erotic Lactation to Your Partner

Let’s be real—bringing up a kink like this can be vulnerable, even scary. But, as always, communication is key.

Use a kink checklist to open the conversation naturally

Choose a relaxed moment where curiosity can flow

Frame it as: “Here’s something I’m curious about…”

“Speak of it as a want, not a demand.” — Mister Lovegood

Once you’ve broached the topic, incorporating it into your sex life can be as creative—or casual—as you want.

Alice recommends layering it into an existing scene with things you already enjoy. That way:

There’s space for aftercare and debriefing.

You can negotiate beforehand: what’s hot, what’s off-limits.

Try spraying it during climax for a visual twist

Taste it together, or have one partner "feed" the other

Why Erotic Lactation Is Worth Talking About

Erotic lactation, at its core, is about celebrating change, rewriting shame, and rediscovering power.

For many new parents, especially women, sexuality can feel distant post-baby. This kink offers a way to re-enter erotic life with agency, awe, and playfulness.

Whether it’s tied to dominance, softness, or just the sensual joy of wetness, lactation play invites a deeper exploration of:

As Alice says, “I never want to stop making milk. I am the Milk Queen.” And honestly? She wears the crown well.

There’s no “right way” to do erotic lactation. Whether you're lactating or not, whether you want to taste, spray, worship, or just fantasize—it’s all valid.

And like any kink, it starts with communication, curiosity, and consent. If you and your partner are open to exploring, there’s a whole world of play, pleasure, and power to discover.

Alice Lovegood & Mister Lovegood

Alice Lovegood & Mister Lovegood occupy a tantalizing space at the intersection of sex education, amateur porn and true love. The polyamorous Bristol-based babes reckon they were quite vanilla before they started making porn four years ago. Becoming content creators allowed them to explore their sexual sides – and their sex has never been hotter. With Alice running the popular Better Sx Blog, they say their sex life is a constant energetic feed that can range from kinky primal play to Tantric lovemaking. “It all depends on the moment or need.”

Alice Lovegood

Mister Lovegood

Conscious kink practitioners and sex educators, blogger Alice Lovegood & Mister Lovegood say making porn started a journey to better, more kinky “red-hot” sex.

Age	29 & 33
Type	married
Location	Bristol, United Kingdom
Sex life	Diverse

Got Milk? Let's Talk About Erotic Lactation With Alice Lovegood

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