As a porn performer, one of the questions I get asked most often is: Are the orgasms real? There seems to be an obsession with the authenticity of the performances in porn. Why is pornography treated differently than other films and what are the consequences of this fascination with the realness of sexual acts in porn?
Why do we like to watch so much? Is it the delicious anonymity of having a front row seat but nobody to pick on you? Is it the temptation of ‘look but don’t touch’? Is it the taboo of seeing some private or forbidden world you weren’t supposed to? Or is it the chance to insert yourself into a situation in whatever way your imagination chooses.
You've probably heard a million times that communication is the key – the secret ingredient on which every great intimate connection stands or falls. It is also the first major building block of that elusive springboard to experience: trust. Like all good things, becoming a great communicator takes time, patience and above all: practice.
Everyone has a different appetite, and sex drives are no different. Some people ask for seconds and some people don’t like feeling full. Everyone has a basic set of needs that determines their libidinous energy, but there is another set of factors at play here as well.